African Parents

I come from equatorial guinee .  for those of us who grew up in an african family,  know that African Parents are narcissists.  the average African child grew up under narcissistic abuse. most of our parents, aunties, uncles, cousins, and siblings are narcissists. This is what happens when one's upbringing lacks teaching about love and the lack of empathy or compassion. 

The mindset of an african parent cannot be easily changed. Having a limited or poor mindset is a frugal curse.  A vast majority fail to work on building assets for their retirement.  From an early age, you are taught to be a servant; you become a working servant for the family.  African parents don´t have the mindset of money management. Everything is viewed through the lens of poverty and scarcity. people in the community believe they must dominate and sabotage to secure money, power, and respect.

 In addition, the majority of African parents either think or believe their children own them. Once they are old, they don´t care to think about life insurance because they see their kids as an insurance policy. They don´t view their kids as grown individuals who have their own lives but as extensions of themselves to do their bidding. They feel that just because they brought you into this world, you owe them.  

 I understand it is from one generation to another. The overall culture, the community, and the traditions are passed on from grandparents to parents and future generations. therefore, It ends with Me and my children